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Guys. An update. My Mom who had a mini stroke couple of weeks ago and been not well, has been diagnosed with a rare disease called Addison's Disease. http://en.wikipedia....n's_disease

 

As someone like My Mom who has diabetis and now a stroke. i am asking if any of you have had family members or known someone who had it? I don't know much about it and wondering how to adjust for my mom with this situation? Not meant to be selfish and make public my family issues. However she is everything to me. Thanks in advance for any replies and best wishes/prayrers recently while she was in hosptial.

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Well I know this guy that had this exact disease. Your mom would probably need medication or etc.. She'll be okay if she takes the medications she is given or anything to help her situation

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My stepdad passed away 7 years ago. He died of a massive heart attack. I found him dead after coming home from work. It was'nt pleasant to watch at all. I'll miss him -- it took me over a month of mourning before I could get myself back together. I really felt a serious void in my life for a very long time. Since it came as a shock. I still to this day feel guilty kicking myself in the ass because I was'nt with him that horrible night.

 

What I'm trying to say is that against our best hopes, that eventually sickness and infirmity will catch up to all of us. But you can get ready to be there for your mom when she may really need you to help her through difficult times.

 

You may have to consider taking on the cavegiver role. And its not easy, with the emotional strain put on you and your beloved mother alike. But in the end whatever the outcome you can feel that you did plenty of good for her and have a good concience. (Experiencing a death in a family is a often tragic experience.)

 

Just make sure you get plenty of rest and eat properly. Organize your time so that taking care of your mother, and also yourself is first priority. If your other family members can help out too, even giving some time so that you can "take a break" that would be good as you're only human.

 

You're doing so already, but yeah continue to do your research, and understand what the triggers are with her condition that leads to a life and death situation. Get a good knowledge of her medications. You may have to learn how to ambulate a person to use the person or use the restroom. Your doctor or nurse can teach you more on how to be an effective caregiver.

 

Be with her emotionally. That is key, because facing the eventual reality of death is very scary for many. Also be patient because many times she may vent out her fustration on you too. Many times my dad would try to punch me in my face. I understood because I knew deep inside he was terrified by the prospecrts of dying. So I kept on the best way I could to help him get through it.

 

I'll stop here. But that's what I would like to share with you after musing over the opening post for a day or so. It's all good, it will make you stronger in the end, and I'm sure your mom will appreciate your hard efforts in providing her with comfort and security in such a time of need.

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Thanks Bro. At least i know i am not the only one that it's hard dealing with a parent who very sick. I lost my dad almost exactly 2 years ago this Sunday. I sent you Realizm a PM message.

 

And sorry about your loss of your stepdad a few year back.

 

 

My stepdad passed away 7 years ago. He died of a massive heart attack. I found him dead after coming home from work. It was'nt pleasant to watch at all. I'll miss him -- it took me over a month of mourning before I could get myself back together. I really felt a serious void in my life for a very long time. Since it came as a shock. I still to this day feel guilty kicking myself in the ass because I was'nt with him that horrible night.

 

What I'm trying to say is that against our best hopes, that eventually sickness and infirmity will catch up to all of us. But you can get ready to be there for your mom when she may really need you to help her through difficult times.

 

You may have to consider taking on the cavegiver role. And its not easy, with the emotional strain put on you and your beloved mother alike. But in the end whatever the outcome you can feel that you did plenty of good for her and have a good concience. (Experiencing a death in a family is a often tragic experience.)

 

Just make sure you get plenty of rest and eat properly. Organize your time so that taking care of your mother, and also yourself is first priority. If your other family members can help out too, even giving some time so that you can "take a break" that would be good as you're only human.

 

You're doing so already, but yeah continue to do your research, and understand what the triggers are with her condition that leads to a life and death situation. Get a good knowledge of her medications. You may have to learn how to ambulate a person to use the person or use the restroom. Your doctor or nurse can teach you more on how to be an effective caregiver.

 

Be with her emotionally. That is key, because facing the eventual reality of death is very scary for many. Also be patient because many times she may vent out her fustration on you too. Many times my dad would try to punch me in my face. I understood because I knew deep inside he was terrified by the prospecrts of dying. So I kept on the best way I could to help him get through it.

 

I'll stop here. But that's what I would like to share with you after musing over the opening post for a day or so. It's all good, it will make you stronger in the end, and I'm sure your mom will appreciate your hard efforts in providing her with comfort and security in such a time of need.

 

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Sorry to see that SB. Hopefully she takes her medicine and stays strong. My prayers go out to her.

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My prayers are for you and your mom.

 

Not only for your mother as I hope that she will take the medication which will help her, but for you as the caregiver (and whoever will be helping you) as you have to be strong during this time.

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Best wishes for your mom! Got my prayers!

 

My stepdad passed away 7 years ago. He died of a massive heart attack. I found him dead after coming home from work. It was'nt pleasant to watch at all. I'll miss him -- it took me over a month of mourning before I could get myself back together. I really felt a serious void in my life for a very long time. Since it came as a shock. I still to this day feel guilty kicking myself in the ass because I was'nt with him that horrible night.

 

What I'm trying to say is that against our best hopes, that eventually sickness and infirmity will catch up to all of us. But you can get ready to be there for your mom when she may really need you to help her through difficult times.

 

You may have to consider taking on the cavegiver role. And its not easy, with the emotional strain put on you and your beloved mother alike. But in the end whatever the outcome you can feel that you did plenty of good for her and have a good concience. (Experiencing a death in a family is a often tragic experience.)

 

Just make sure you get plenty of rest and eat properly. Organize your time so that taking care of your mother, and also yourself is first priority. If your other family members can help out too, even giving some time so that you can "take a break" that would be good as you're only human.

 

You're doing so already, but yeah continue to do your research, and understand what the triggers are with her condition that leads to a life and death situation. Get a good knowledge of her medications. You may have to learn how to ambulate a person to use the person or use the restroom. Your doctor or nurse can teach you more on how to be an effective caregiver.

 

Be with her emotionally. That is key, because facing the eventual reality of death is very scary for many. Also be patient because many times she may vent out her fustration on you too. Many times my dad would try to punch me in my face. I understood because I knew deep inside he was terrified by the prospecrts of dying. So I kept on the best way I could to help him get through it.

 

I'll stop here. But that's what I would like to share with you after musing over the opening post for a day or so. It's all good, it will make you stronger in the end, and I'm sure your mom will appreciate your hard efforts in providing her with comfort and security in such a time of need.

 

 

 

Sorry for you lose, but its good to see you kept strong and your doing well today as he would have like you to been!

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I unfortunately am unfamiliar with this disease, and it doesn't run in my entire family, but I am truly sorry to hear about that and wish your mom the best and offer my best wishes for a smooth and full recovery.

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Guys an update on my mom. Not to change the title but my who was yesterday at her doctor's medical exam diagonsed now with alzheimer diease. It's now confirmed. When my mom was in hopstial a couple of weeks ago, after a stroke those Doc said she had addisions. I really dislike how these medical pros make these confusing and different results. Remember my mom is 80 years old and she had me as a baby later at age 40. It not that i lied but that was the condition (addision disease) she was given by her ER doctors.

 

Anyhow just wondering guys how should i treat my mom now that she has alzheimer's? She now at times very forgetful. If you know of say a grandparent or relative with it I love to hear it. It also makes me mad at how these ER doctors make these misdiasgnosed or wrong evulations of diases. Thanks for reading this and continued best wishes for my mom.

 

 

Here wiki link on alzheimer.

 

 

http://en.wikipedia....r's_disease

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Im sorry SB, Ive never had experience with any relative or close friend with alzheimers so i cant help you with advice, but i will continue praying for her.

 

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I am sorry to hear that Shortline, it's not that easy to diagnose. But doctors make mistakes all of the time.

At some point in time you are going to have to make the tough decision to put her in a nursing home.

Alzheimers is irreversable and there is no cure. I sure hope you at least have another relative or close friend to

help taking care of your mother.

 

Do she have a long term health care policy? Is there a history of Alzheimers in your family?

 

Even though she is at the mild stage, I would be afraid to leave her alone even for a few minutes. She can wander off

and be unable to find her way back home. Many different scenarios come to mind. God bless you and your family.

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Wish I could offer advice or tips, but I really don't know enough about the disease -- all I can do is offer best wishes and hope that she's taken care of well, and that's it's a mild case. Very sorry to hear about this.

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I have few relatives who have Alzheimers Disease, and I can pretty much tell you it's going to require a lot of patience to deal with people who have this disease, especially when it gets worse. I have a distant relative that passed away partially due to this disease last year so it's a pretty sad flashback on how the last few days of his life is like. But, I want to help prevent another one...

 

I strongly suggest a stablization method that would let the disease not worsen quickly. As I heard from many people and articles, including doctors and specialists say that letting people with Alzheimers play brain games (or games that require thinking or a lot of thinking) might help lower the chance of a fast worsening. You should also let your mom at times play some Bingo, Chess, Monopoly and such if the brain games seem a bit too complex. Pattern games would also help, and definitely bring her out when you get the chance to a park, and beside the Hudson River so it could let her enjoy the envoirnment and relax. Also, make sure her room and clothing is comfortable at all times. Care and finding activities is #1 thing to do!

 

And when the time comes that she needs a continuous care, I would suggest getting a nurse from the Government so you are assured that she is under the best care, a private agency might not be the best. But, for now, that's all the advice I can think of and give, still best wishes to your family, your mom and you! Good luck and stay well!

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I'm so sorry to hear that, SB. How are you doing now that the initial shock has probably passed?

 

Alzheimer's is unfortunately a very time consuming and tiring disease to deal with. You may want to look into getting a home health aid to help out. Insurance and Medicare will often pay for an HHA

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I'm so sorry to hear that, SB. How are you doing now that the initial shock has probably passed?

 

Alzheimer's is unfortunately a very time consuming and tiring disease to deal with. You may want to look into getting a home health aid to help out. Insurance and Medicare will often pay for an HHA

 

 

It was not a shock really since in last couple of months my mom was forgetting family birthdays, etc. which she never did before. Then the mini stroke couple of weeks ago has made it worse with her memory. When she is ok, she still knows who the President of the United States is, etc. Bad news is that sill often forgets what she had for dinner 2 nights ago. This is what hurts the most for me. Only Bright spot is it's in the early stages and with meds/treatment according to her doctors she can maintain basic awareness around her for another couple of years. Sadly there no cure and some point, it will go down hill.

 

Again guys a friendly reminder. My mom does not live with me, she in San Diego, Ca. with my sister and brother in law in retirement. Although i am 3,000 miles away the sadness of getting this diasese i have come close to tears in last few days. Thus basically (not meant as an insult towards her) making adjustments of talking to her on phone from a bright smart adult woman regressing back now to a 15 year old teenage girl in last little bit. Even after her 1st mild stroke a few years back, she regained almost all of her memory. **Not to mention my sister quitting her job as a nurse recently, as a shift supervior

on weekend to take care of my mom 24/7. Nursing home is only a dire last restort right now for my family.**

 

 

With that said, my sister and her hubby already have a physical threapist and soon a HHA(home health attendant) as well. Next time i see my mom probably around X-Mas/New Years is when it will more hit me personally hard.

 

Guys again thanks for prayers and best wishes. Keep you posted.

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Yeah well just saying the truth about the disease everyone who eventually pass away because of it or because of something happening related to the dusease, which is sad. Now I'm sure ShortLine you have high hopes for your mother even though you and the rest of your family will suffer a lot with her current state.

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